Letter To Barry (And Anyone)
(An Epistolary Manifesto)
My paintings are colors, my poetry is rhythm, and sometimes my thoughts take the form of letters. This one is for anyone who needs it.
Letter For A Friend:
Experiencing a near-death situation can profoundly shift one’s perspective, much like the joy of bringing new life into the world - highlights what truly matters and helps distinguish between the important things and the trivial.
When facing the challenges of assumption, toxicity, violence, and the complexities of human nature, realize that some wear masks which hide their true selves. Always approach others with humility, compassion, and curiosity, always be willing to engage in meaningful conversations, but also protect your heart, though never be too suspicious.
A simple act of kindness, like offering a smile or a kind word, can have a significant impact on someone’s day, and you may never know how much it can uplift your own spirit as well. It’s wise to distance yourself from negativity and dishonesty, as these can cloud your judgment and complicate your interactions. If you find yourself being dishonest, consider the burden of keeping track of those lies.
When encountering individuals who presume to understand your thoughts or feelings without seeking to know you, it’s best to disengage. Instead, seek out those who value your voice and allow you to express yourself freely, which can bring peace to your heart.
Surround yourself with the beauty and comfort that resonate within you. Whether it’s the tranquility of solitude, the warmth of companionship, or the serenity of nature, embrace what brings you joy. If something in your life feels unhealthy, strive to find a healthier alternative.
Avoid making judgments based on appearances, such as race, culture, clothing, or expressions. Everyone has a story worth hearing, and being open to others is essential for gaining knowledge, compassion, and love — these are the most important ingredients for personal growth and a fulfilling life.
Extend your compassion to those who are homeless, impoverished, or struggling, especially those with gentle spirits. You may not know the hardships they’ve endured, just as others may not have inquired about your own struggles.
To enhance your well-being, listen to your body’s language. Don’t rely solely on the advice of friends, family, or even doctors without questioning and understanding your own needs. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. Research. Eat well, live well. Partake of red wine each day if your body agrees. Sleep well. Dance everyday, at least a little, it’s good for the heart and soul. And if you should desire to sing, sing anywhere.
Believe in yourself. You have earned that right through your unique experiences, both the ups and downs. Try to recall it’s important to handle your struggles privately when you can, remember that everyone has their own burdens to carry. Don’t isolate yourself out of bitterness; being self-centered can only harden your heart. Instead of directing anger towards others during times of frustration and loneliness, focus on finding your balance and creating opportunities for personal growth and kindness, both for yourself and those around you. Holding onto hatred will only consume you.
When it comes to worldly issues, trust your own judgment rather than simply following the crowd. Take the time to learn and think critically; this is how you protect yourself and those you care about. Embrace solitude to reflect on what you consume in terms of media and information. Recognize that many people are driven by fear, and strive to rise above it, setting a positive example to inspire others to do the same and live in peace, too.
Above all, prioritize self-love and kindness. Understand and nurture yourself, as these are essential to being able to extend the same to others. A whole is not made up of fragmented pieces; it thrives when it is complete and harmonious.
If you've experienced the loss of a loved one or someone dear to you, it's important to recognize that you were already aware of the depth of that connection. This situation is often more of a bruise to the ego rather than a true loss. Often, our ego is something we can choose to hold onto. Take a moment to reflect on whether it's necessary to cling to it in this instance.
When all wisdom fails, hold your arms out and imagine an invisible circle, from that point in, is in your control or influence. So why not make it positive?
Lastly, remember that nothing is permanent. Everything is in a state of change, even if it’s subtle. Embrace this fluidity, as it is part of your growth and learning journey. This is the essence of love and living fully.
Marni Fraser
0214.2025
